Have you ever thought about whether your worry and worry are the wings of the childs growth, or an invisible shackle?
Maybe you will say, he is still a child, I cant worry about it!
Then find a way to truly cultivate childrens ability to solve problems themselves.
How to cultivate?
This article will be inspired by you.
Author: Cat Language
Source: Inverse cat
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You are you, children are children.
It is impossible to make you not worry, it seems that it will ask for your life.The moment you are your parents, you basically live a dazzling life every day.
All your goals are symbolic. With the purpose of making money, there is direction to live, and the boundary of the experience of joy and sorrow is expanded.You know, because of the arrival of your child, your life is given more meaning.
Life is meaningless. Everything is given by individuals.You think your life is colorful and weave it.If you dont want to, you dont need to do so.No one stipulates that a persons life must not be faint and boring.
But you have to pay attention, your meaning is just your own, what life continues, what genes are self -copy, what continues in the second half of life, what old age is ...…. It is not a child.
("Little Happy" stills)
You are you, the child is a child.So from the beginning, you have to understand this main relationship, instead of moving the so -called meaning of your life, and then holding the small whip to pump back, give me back!Give me back!
It is often necessary to know that the meaning is often heavy, and it is impossible to make a person relax at all.
As long as the child wants to do this, it is basically not collapsed in front, and it will collapse in the back.So you let your child ride, he doesnt want to go, you let him go to bed early, dont want to sleep.
He just doesnt want to live a lifetime you arranged. This is not his meaning, we can even.
Many people may not always feel that they are correct, but the moment they always educate their children, they feel that they are extremely correct.
Is this not another kind of violence, trying to use compulsory means to let children surrender.
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You must be thinking, no, butI have a responsibility to him.I cant sleep until he stays up late. He has to take him to see the doctor to see the snacks teeth. He reads too badly and cant find a job. I still have to raise him in the future ...
Responsibility and problems are two different things.The child stays up late, it should not be that you do n’t sleep well, but that he must know that bad habits will make himself bad; the child does n’t like to read, it should not be you to raise him in the future, but this way, help him find another wayIn the end, they still seek to survive.
Parents can only bring their children to find problems and solve problems.The character positioning should be clear, only help, but not directly.
And many things are like this. The more afraid of, the more you will be there.The more you emphasize, the more you remember your children, the more you suppress it, the more powerful the childs resistance.
("Little Happy" stills)
So you will find a dish that you dont like to eat vegetablesChildren may not eat when they were young, and did not mean that they would not eat later.A child who dares not to eat eggs is just dare not when he was a child.
But a child who has been forced to eat a certain food since he was a child, he was still afraid when he grew up, and he would not accept it for a lifetime.
The ability is not learned from the beginning, it has been continuously tempered.It is particularly obvious in the child. The part of the flower picking flowers often does not open.
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In essence, there is no ability to solve problems.
Once the child has a problem, your mouth will work again, and your intuitive response will always sell yourself.Except for emotions first, calm down and analyze the situation.
It is normal for children to solve the problem, and this is the moment when parents play a role.What parents have to do are to place themselves. You want a child with ability to solve the ability. Then you have to teach him Encountering problems, allowing emotionEssence
But you just scolded loudly and disciplined it. Except for a roaring parent and the language of an order, he didnt even know what the problem was.Which sky is violated?
("Xiao Ji" stills)
Many people know that everyone is their own destinyThe first responsible person, but parents often do not understand the truth in their children.
What do you worry about, instead of verbal discipline, it is better to do it.If you want a healthy child, you pay attention to health, and he will have the same learning. If you want to love learning, you should try to do one thing seriously; if you want him to be self -disciplined, it is better to strictYu Jue.
People grow up in the experience. Children will not succeed because of your three words, but children will benefit from your words for your life.
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Thinking of this, since life has to cultivate all the ability to accept everything, there is no reason to not be able to accept the childs true appearance.
Instead of pulling out with the childs sword, it is better to learn to understand each other.You should not have a burden on my incomplete, and I dont desperately intervene in your cause and effect.The significance of the childs success is that he has given himself, which has nothing to do with you.
(Stills of "Nian You Diary")
You are related to your own meaning, moreTake your mind yourself, you live for a long time, earn for a long time, and watch your child for a long time.
Even if you have to pay, you can give your child more.The 60 -year -old life has 20 years with the 80 -year -old life. If you weigh it yourself, you will know that it is more appropriate to put your heart on yourself.
and whether the child does not know if there is a talent, but you will learn to pay attention to your own feelings, focus on solving the problem. This is the confidence of future survival.
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