"I am a super -sensitive person".
A while ago, Jin Chens speech in the variety show "Flower Sha Shao 6" made the entry of the "high -sensitive crowd" attracted attention.
In fact, the discussion about the "Highly Sensitive Person" (HSP) has always been endless on the social network: its cause, its advantages and inferiority, how to distinguish yourself to distinguish yourselfIs it ... from the small public to the reunification of most people, it no longer only represents a certain group, but also tells a certain situation.
Research found that the proportion of HSP in the crowd is about 15-20%, but it is interesting that when you look at major social networks, high-sensitive people seem to be everywhere.
Read the language in the air, the constant sense of boundary between each other, and the increasingly precise social rules ... Although I have to admit it, I have to admit it, I have to admit it, I have to admit it, I have to admit it, I have to admit it, I have to admit it, I have to admit it, I have to admit it, I have to admit it, I have to admit it, I have to admit it, I have to admit it, I have to admit it, I have to admit it.But modern people are becoming more and more sensitive.
missing phobia
No one can claim that he will always hold "first -hand information".Perhaps this is a convincing view, but it is also a "comfort" view.
Especially for FOMO patients.FOMO missed the anxiety that is always worried about losing or missing any anxiety.Driven by it, people are always keen to listen to the six ways to watch the six ways on social media, and they cant wait to absorb and participate in new events at all times.
This highly sensitiveness from peoples high sensitivity to potential losses often leads to a strange phenomenon: compared to what you can gain from it, he is always afraid that you can not do it.What will be lost.
Exaggeration to say that FOMO is a bit like a "disease", and those who are affected will always absorb the coming coming at the expense of the cost.Information, accept each invitation until it is swept by anxiety.
When this "disease" develops to a certain stage, it is a bit like the concept of "sensory overload" in psychology:
Faced with sensory information such as visual, hearing, and smell of vision, auditory, hearing, and smell, our attention has been dispersed and focused, and it is gradually exhausted in this chase, let alone need to be exhausted, let alone.Talk about focusing on the present.
The fatigue and emptiness caused by the sensory overload further exacerbated FOMO. We always worry that we will miss more important things in the torrent of information, but we dont know that we are unable to focus on it.
Think about it, when this sensitive to "absence" is coming again, instead reminds us to do subtraction and think about whether we can really gain from it.What.
The opposite of the blunt feeling
Talking about the antonyms of "high sensitivity", many people may immediately think of"Darkness".Unlike the sensitive and delicate empathy, the blunt feeling looks more calm and not vulnerable to emotional interference.
We can understand that some people yearn for bluntness because it seems to better protect ourselves.After all, blunt sensations are like raising the threshold of the emotional sensor, reducing emotional fluctuations, and establishing a barrier to self -protection.
In contrast, once the sensitive tentacles reach the outside world, it will always bring more uncertainty and weakness.
Perhaps the sensitivity is labeled too much, becoming "the target of the criticism", so that we rarely put the sensitivity and blunt sensation in the sameLook at the context:
Because the blunt sensation always appears on the opposite side of the sensitive opposite, it makes us mistakenly think that this is a 2nd option.
But if you look at the perspective of "immersion" and "separation", it is actually the two states of life: Faced with noise, we cannot be immersed by ourselves.Among them, the occasional extraction gives us a perspective of being outside, and more objectively facing the current state.
Only when immersed in the first and understand your emotions and feelings, can you know where to get rid ofExcessive invasion and interference.Therefore, from this perspective, the more blunt people, the more sensitive the more blunt people are: sensitively notice the interference, and switch to the dull mode to protect themselves.
If the premise of bluntness is sensitive, the prerequisite for sensitive is to feel.
Specific Life
Writer John Koenig has published a sad dictionary "The Dictionary of Obscure Sorrows"Lets record 8,000 words to describe different types of sadness.The original intention of this dictionary was because he found that there were many vague emotions in life that could not be described as words.
It sounds like a book that is very sad before reading.But it is amazing that when many people find that there is a word that can accurately describe their sadness, it has healed most of them.
There is a concept of psychology, called "emotional granularity", which refers to our sensitivity and recognition ability of our emotions.
For example, for people with lower emotional particle size, unhappy is sad, but for a person with higher emotional granularity, noHappy may be guilt, embarrassment, loss ...
The more accurate the description of emotions, the more you can take action to face and deal with it.
In the past two years, how to improve the discussion of perception.In the fast -paced rhythm of modern society, the cycle day after day is easy to make efficiency and results lead, and ignore the significance of the process.
The decrease in the granularity of life: the inner roll is still flat, e people or I will find that we always get used to generally do general questions, but but we always do generally do general questions, but but we always do generalitiesRarely.
In the current social culture, it is difficult for us to say that it is due to the lack of language, but the specific life may be a solution.
The movie "Perfect Day"
In the movie "In the Perfect Day ", the protagonist Pingshan experienced a dull and duplicated life, reading, watching trees, music, film photography ... while working, he still maintains love.Listen, or just watch.
He understands himself, so he can always find his own switching method, do what you like, and act according to his own rhythm; and because he loves all things, he can always enjoy everything from a subtle place.Will life day after day really satisfy people?Thinking about it, Pingshan in the movie said, "The next time is the next time, this time this is this time", at least enjoying the present.
In the final analysis, the cycle is not terrible. The terrible thing is that we lose our ability to feel. After all, that is the basis for us to choose how to live.
Back to our own specific life, the answer is also simple: make good use of your sensitivity, do more seemingly "useless" observations, pursue "present"Feeling, live in the moment.
Edit & AMPWriting: sienna guo
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