After the middle school entrance examination is over, the next point is.Someone has begun to share the results in the past two days.
first look> It is worthy of Affiliated, English 123, has been ranked to more than 700.
Some netizens said: In our school, this score can be ranked first.
This weekend Is everyone relaxed after the test of the mother -in -law and filial piety, or is the chicken flying dog jumping?
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Take a look at the sharing of parents:
Jianye Chujia:
Some parents comfort: This score is OK, some class 270.
A public head of a public head of Drum Tower:
Scores, different school rankings are large.
Consortium Parents:
Some netizens said that this score can be on the attached middle school. The parent said that it is good for entering Shisanhong Mountain.
Some parents said: The first grade will be more anxious, and the mentality of the second grade will change.
There are also sixth grade parents said:
Phase III is a difficult deal that children need to break through, and it is also a small test between parents and children.The tension and the pressure of grades have been overwhelmed, and the family needs to be a completely trustworthy and warm habitat, which can make them fully relax.
Lecture at the end of the middle exam at the end of the middle school
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What should parents do after the middle school entrance examination?
Perception and acceptance : Look at the exam from a rational perspective
No parents dont care about their children.In the face of the childrens achievements, parents may unconsciously show the emotion of "deep responsibility of love".Obviously care and expectations, what expressed may become blame and criticism, obviously expected that it is a communication of love, but the final result has evolved into a fierce quarrel.
Before giving the child reaction, parents may wish to follow and perceive themselves .How is your mood at this time?In such emotions, do you have a confidence to complete an effective communication?If you are not sure, then slow down the emotions first, identify the unreasonable part of the emotions, adjust your emotions and cognition , and then communicate with your child.
In the exam, there are many important parts to get attention compared to roll scores.For example, childrens learning effects, learning methods, and learning interests, such as childrens feelings and internal motivation.Parents should look at the exams from a rational perspective. Faced with the childrens high scores, they can express joy but not over -reward. Faced with the childrens low scores, they can express their ideas but should not be accused and complained too much.Please believe that it is the instinct to make yourself better and better. Please protect the childs feelings. Guide the child to look at himself with a growth vision, help him find the reason , and accompany him to find it becomes more and moreGood direction.
Thinking and adjustment : Follow the child with warm eyes
When children have a decline in their results, they are often prone to anxiety, self -blame, and sadness. At this time, the childs psychological fragility requires the care and support of others.As parents, to see the emotions of their children, allow these emotions to appear, and guide children to vent moderately and actively respond.
You can do this:
Listening and Understanding —— Give the child to the childA safe space allows them to fully express their feelings, follow him, listen to him, and express your understanding and concern.
Thinking and adjustment —— Based on your understanding of your child, he can guide him to vent his emotions at this time in a way he can accept.After his emotions are stable, communicate with him with an equal and gentle attitude, and transfer the attention point of the exam from score to the reason for the reason for the reason for the reason for the reason for the next step.In the process of attributing to children, please pay attention to: pay more attention to the internal factors and less complaints from the external environment; find more controllable factors, find less controlling factors (pay attention to learning methods and efforts, do not tangled difficulty and external environment); moreDo variable attribution and do less inductive causes (encourage children to dig resources that can fully mobilize subjective initiative, and do not attribute the results to the factors that cannot be changed or difficult to change in ability, luck, etc.).
Action and improvement : Encourage children
Parents can express their encouragement and support to children through the following actions:
Help children set scientific learning goals .Based on the peaceful performance of test results as a reference, you and your children need to let go of unreasonable expectations and let learning return to a gradual orbit.Set specific goals so that children can clearly guide themselves what they want and what they can do.The goal should be measured. The child can self -test and adjust it in a timely manner. The goal should be realized, so that the child can feel challenging and sufficient confidence to achieve.Moderate relaxation with the child to enhance the childs inner power .Parents can participate in the childrens relaxation plan, accompany their children to relax and relax scientific relaxation.At the same time, you can bring your children to participate in some social practice or public welfare activities, so that children have the opportunity to experience life other than learning, exercise the ability to solve problems, open up childrens horizons, enrich the color of childrens lives, and allow children to explore their ideals in experience in experience, Get the inherent motivation of long -term efforts in the future.
▍ Source: Parents of Nanjing said, Xiaohongshu, Nanjing school, network, etc.
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