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Teacher, I have been very entangled recently because I fell in love with someone, a comparison, a comparisonI am close to 30 years old.The people around him felt incredible, and even some friends felt ridiculous because he was almost my grandpa.This mockery made me feel embarrassed, and I didnt dare to share my feelings with the people around me.I am afraid of becoming a talk after meals for others, fear of those eyes and rumors.
But even so, I still cant deny my feelings for him.He gave me a sense of security, a feeling that made me feel deeply understood and cherished.I felt loved and satisfied by him. I have never experienced this feeling.I am confused and I dont know how to deal with this relationship.
I am afraid, afraid of the familys unknown, fear of losing friends.But at the same time, I was also afraid of losing him, and I was afraid of losing this feeling that made me feel safe and loved.I am very distressed and anxious. I do n’t know what to do. I feel very torment. I hope to get your suggestion, thank you!
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Thank you.I read your letter, I read it over and over again, and every time I can feel the tangles and confusion in your heart.I want to tell you, I fully understand your feelings, you are not alone.
Love is complicated and wonderful. Its form and performance are very diverse. This diversity is not only reflected in class, gender, X tendency, identity, region, race, belief, etc.In terms of age, it also includes age.
I often tell everyone that love has no fixed model and no uniform standard.Each love is unique, just like the experience and character of each of us is also the only one in the world.
So, when you say you are in love with someone who is nearly 30 years older than you, I am not surprised, because love is like this, it will surpass the boundaries of age.
For example, Weng Fan and Yang Zhenning have been married for 18 years, and Yang Zhenning has also entered a centenarity.When they got married, because the two were 54 years old, they aroused widespread heated discussion.
I really agree with the importance of the sense of security you are. Security is one of the most desire in our hearts.In love, if anyone can give you this sense of security, it makes you feel understanding and cherished. Isnt this a kind of happiness and luck?
Of course we can pursue this sense of security, but in love, we can also pursue more. Love is not only the source of security, it can also be the source of passion, companionship, growth and self -realization.
In love, we can pursue passion, the feeling that peoples heartbeats are accelerated and wants to go to that person to go to the earth.We can pursue companionship, and no matter when and where, someone supports your sense of pragmatic behind you.
We can pursue growth, the process of continuous learning in love and moving forward together.
We can also pursue self -realization, the kind of joy that finds ourselves in love and becomes a better ourselves.
These are what love can bring us, and we can pursue in love.
Of course, I also know that your "cross -generation love" will face a lot of challenges.
First of all, the pressure you mentioned.In your description, your age gap is too large and has been interpreted and criticized by people around.In the face of these, you need to have a lot of courage and determination to adhere to your choice.
And your interests and values.Due to the gap between age, you may have many differences in interests and values.This requires the full communication and understanding of both parties, find common points, and respect each others differences.
Lets talk about the X harmonic problem you may face.Due to the gap between age, you may have uncoordinated situations in Xs life. The dislocation of X demand may be unavoidable, but you may be able to find a way suitable for each other through communication to make X life more harmonious.
In addition to these, you may also face many other challenges, such as different living habits, the integration of the circle of friends, the handling of family relationships, and so on.These require you to consider and solve it.
In the face of these problems, the first step is to come up with a lot of courage to face the problem.Secondly, you need to communicate. Communication is the key to solving the problem. Whether it is the problem between you or the pressure of the outside world, you need to solve it through communication.
When facing the problem, you first need to take out courage to face the problem. This is the first step to solve the problem.Next, communication has become the key to solving problems. Whether it is the problem between you or the pressure of the outside world, it is necessary to solve it through effective communication.When communicating, it is very important to build trust and consensus. You can realize the other partys concerns, needs, and goals, and sharing your own ideas and situations.
You can also convert some outside pressure into support, and share your feelings with trust friends or family members. Their understanding and support may bring you great help to youEssence
If the problem is more complicated or unable to solve it for a long time, you can consider the help of a professional psychological counselor.You can also consider the help of professional psychological counselors. For example, our sexual counseling services can also provide more professional suggestions and support to accompany you to face the challenges and dilemma in life.
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In the end, what I want to say is that love is a choice and a responsibility. Choosing love means that you choose to face challenges and take responsibility.No matter what kind of challenges your feelings face, as long as you really love each other, nothing cannot be overcome.
I understand your feelings and also support your choice.I believe that as long as you really love each other and agree with each other, nothing cannot be overcome.I hope you can have the courage and the courage to face your own and outside world, because courage is the greatest praise of human beings.
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PS: As we grow older, desires will decrease, we will all become loving, but old ladies without X.
I wish you all enjoy when you can enjoy love and X ~ You can also accept it frankly when you lose.
